Wall and Gatekeeper

As parents, we know it is our role to prepare our children for the world they will live in. But we also want to protect them. We experience their growing independence and we become fearful. How do we navigate all these choices and freedoms the world offers them? How do we guide them? Instruct them? While also protecting and sheltering them?
Susan Merrill, founder of iMom and author of “The Passionate Mom: Dare to Parent in Today’s World” offers some great guidance in her 26 page Ebook  “How To Prepare Your Kids for the World”. She helps parents, such as you and I, navigate our role as Wall and Gatekeepers for our children – covering everything from choices, school, friendships and free time to electronics, cell phone, social media, driving, dating, and college. Merrill states “You are so many things to your child. You are a wall—the one who will vigilantly protect your child. And you are the gatekeeper—the one who will diligently train your child for a future beyond the wall. The wall is the foundation for protecting, and the gates are the opportunity to test your child’s readiness to live well outside the wall.”
Attached are the links to her article in iMom as well as her Ebook. I hope you enjoy them as much as I have.
And for more resources, please check out iMom (www.imom.com). It is by far one of my favorite resources as a therapist and parenting educator.
Good reading!
How to Prepare Your Kids for the World — iMom


Back to School Organization

As I’m trying to get my own life more organized this year, I think of all the parents, tween and teenagers that want this year to be different!  In 2017, clutter just seemed to pile up everywhere, on the floor, kitchen table, in front of doors, in bedrooms, living rooms, and then carried on over to school lockers. As a result, they couldn’t find anything, papers got misplaced, ripped or even lost and assignments are forgotten. Stress builds up, panic sets in, kids get overwhelmed and shut down. Parents are praying for an end to all this – and hoping this year grades will go up, papers won’t get lost and assignments will get turned in!
So I thought I’d share a couple helpful videos to get you started. Trust me, there are plenty out there! But perhaps this will give you a little taste…After all, you just have to get started!! And it all has to do with 4 things: 1)  a binder, 2) a color coding system 3) a backpack tag and 4) goals calendar! So here we go –
1)  This first video shows you how to organize your binder and school notebook in two ways: 1) in a traditional 3-ring school binder or 2) a non-traditional binder without rings (more like an accordion organizer)   Check it out here:  https://youtu.be/sjgKTS8Eu_Q
2) This second video gives you great Color Coding ideas!!! I wish I had known this when I was in school – I would have had so much fun with it! But of course, we didn’t have all the cool colorful materials that are out today!   Check it out here: https://youtu.be/DEQmfxiaSSg
3) Understood.org has some great resources. Here’s a cool little tool – a Backpack Checklist Luggage Tag your kid can put right on his/her backpack  (who’d ever think of that??)  Check it out here: BackpackChecklistLuggageTags
4) Finally, a printable Calendar with Goals for each month.   Check the Calendar out here: 2018 Goals Calendar A Printable Planner